Forgiveness is hard. It isn’t easy. And it isn’t a cure-all magic pill.
We shouldn’t sugarcoat forgiveness or any of the other hard things in life that are steps toward wholeness. We complain when medicine tastes gross, but we take it anyway. Its purpose is to assist in the recovery process, it isn’t there to taste good. It isn’t candy. The same goes for forgiveness. It isn’t something that tastes good. It’s something that we want to spit out. Then why is it that we seem to think that it should be otherwise? People accept that medicine is gross but helpful. If we accept it for medication, why not for forgiveness?
Wounds heal with the proper care and treatment along with time. Time alone does not heal a wound. If something goes untreated, it can fester and turn into an infection. You need to clean it, put ointment on it, and bandage it up. In some cases, the wound is bad enough to need a bandage change, antibiotics, a tetanus shot, and maybe even a trip or stay in the hospital. You can’t leave these sorts of things alone.
The same goes for mental illness and trauma. You can’t put it to the side and just hope that it goes away. It doesn’t work that way. It needs to be talked about, written about, and shared. It isn’t easy; it’s super hard to do. But once it’s no longer just you in this bubble of pain and hurt, others who love and care for you can help in tending and caring for your mental wounds and scars. That in and of itself is priceless.